Why Make a Change
Some people think that sex is like kissing, only more so. Why can’t it mean different things in different circumstances? Just because it’s an act of total commitment sometimes, it doesn’t always have to be. Why can’t it sometimes just be for fun?
The answer is basic. You can see it in the three big reasons many people wait.
Did you know that about a third of the girls who have premarital sex end up pregnant? No one ever got pregnant from kissing, but sex leads to the creation of a child. If you are pregnant, you can rush into marriage, abort the baby, make an adoption plan for the baby, or raise it yourself. All of these options drastically affect the life of you, the baby’s father, and the baby.
And then there are sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Although some STDs can be treated, some, are incurable. Gonorrhea can cause sterility. The rate of cervical cancer is soaring among young women who engage in sex before 16.
And then there is the psychological power of sex. More pleasure comes from sex than almost anything else, but more tears are shed because of it, too.
So sex is serious, an act in a category all it’s own. There is nothing really like it. And to get the very most out of it, you have to understand it, and you have to understand love. Deep down inside, we’re looking for more than just sex. We are lonely people who are looking for loving unity with other people. We don’t find true contentment with brief pleasure. We want to merge our lives with the lives of others in the kind of relationship that doesn’t leave us feeling alone again and again. To be truly fulfilled in a relationship, we have to train ourselves to put other attractions aside, and focus on one person. To get the most out of sex, we need to give up many sexual relationships to experience one totally loving relationship.
The answer is basic. You can see it in the three big reasons many people wait.
Did you know that about a third of the girls who have premarital sex end up pregnant? No one ever got pregnant from kissing, but sex leads to the creation of a child. If you are pregnant, you can rush into marriage, abort the baby, make an adoption plan for the baby, or raise it yourself. All of these options drastically affect the life of you, the baby’s father, and the baby.
And then there are sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Although some STDs can be treated, some, are incurable. Gonorrhea can cause sterility. The rate of cervical cancer is soaring among young women who engage in sex before 16.
And then there is the psychological power of sex. More pleasure comes from sex than almost anything else, but more tears are shed because of it, too.
So sex is serious, an act in a category all it’s own. There is nothing really like it. And to get the very most out of it, you have to understand it, and you have to understand love. Deep down inside, we’re looking for more than just sex. We are lonely people who are looking for loving unity with other people. We don’t find true contentment with brief pleasure. We want to merge our lives with the lives of others in the kind of relationship that doesn’t leave us feeling alone again and again. To be truly fulfilled in a relationship, we have to train ourselves to put other attractions aside, and focus on one person. To get the most out of sex, we need to give up many sexual relationships to experience one totally loving relationship.